6 Things

It's important to really sit down and reflect each year. Recently I've finally got some time to really think through 

what 2015 has given me. So thought I'd shared some of my lessons learnt with you guys and hopefully it inspires you :) 

P/s I made a short video while me and my best friend was exploring this beautiful place in my hometown malacca, 

Click on it and feel the mood! btw, floral kimono is sponsored by  DREAMSCAPE  (check them out too!)

1. Detox, Cleanse & Remove

...not only what you put in your body, but the people you surround yourself with. Even online, on facebook- Is this person constantly ranting about how bad his/her life is? Are you still 'spying' on your ex? Wait, do you have your ex's password and is constantly checking who is he talking online?? Don't do that... even if it was a 'clean breakup' (or not) clinging on this 'hope' that he is not doing as good as you are is totally UNHEALTHY. Detox the negativity, unfollow all of the instagram accounts and fb friends that make you feel like shit. Unsubscribe to constantly-popping-up-random-ass-e-newsletters that you don't even remember signing up for. Is this 'friend' constantly pulling you down? Is this person always using you just for his/her benefits? Have a good look at your circle because you are the 5 people you spend most of your time with. Which leads to my second point...

2. Managing Time

We all have our fair shares of procrastinating. Procrastination is the Thief of Time, so set your goals everyday, it's always good to set a What-do-you-see-yourself-in-5-years goals, but everyday, set aside time to just sit by yourself and be silent. Schedule yourself into your day. Target what do you want to finish today, write it down, write down what you're going to accomplish at the beginning of every workday (or before!), what are the steps you need to take to accomplish a certain task, GET A PLANNER! This is a practise that I've been doing for 6 years now and it really makes me feel like my time is well spent. Hey, we all know time is short, so spend every minute of it wisely!

3. Dress UP

I've been toning it down with dressing up in 2015 - a lot of the reasons were: Being too busy at work / Couldn't be bothered because 'it's just the mamak' situation / No hot guys around to impress also, dress for what?? / Just want to be comfortable,etc. Sigh... That wasn't 'me' before, and honestly dressing down (I mean just casually grabbing sweatpants with some random shirt going out) affects your mood a lot. For me, it made me felt less motivated to do work, less happy - more gloomy, very "cin-cai" - and I hated it. Apart from that I hated the fact when you put on something tight or something that you haven't wore for a long time and you ABSOLUTELY look HORRID in it because you don't fit it anymore. Oh my goodness, that feeling of not being able to buckle your jeans is so depressing, I never want to feel that again this year! Let's fill up our closet with beautiful clothes this year okay? Speaking of which, the beautiful blue floral kimono that you see me in is from DREAMSCAPE - A local online boutique which (in my opinion) very Zara-like. They're modern and chic, their style is simple, but minimalist in a way where it fits everyone, I've already gotten a few pieces from them before, like this grey knit top HERE, this ripped jeans HERE, all are some of my favourite pieces from them. I highly recommend you guys to check them out because after a few wash, the quality is still very good!! You guys can head onto their website  http://www.dreamscape.com.my to check them out :)

4. Explore different things at least once a week

Exploring something new could be a different cafe (yes we heard you, you cafe-hoppers), a new type of movie genre, a new hobby, a new kind of sport, or travel to somewhere foreign you've never seen before, breath a new air, watch a new tv series, cut a new hairstyle, try colored contact lenses for once if you haven't! Simple things, little things that sparks a "new" kindda feeling. Always feel a sort of refresh in your system, because life's too short doing the same routine over and over again. Doesn't mean that you have a 9-5 job so you need to be boring. What are those labels anyways?! So always do something to "refresh" your routine everyday.

5. Be a Friend to Yourself

Stop beating yourself up. Imagine the words that you say to yourself :"You're too fat / God you're so ugly / No one likes you / You're useless"
Would you say these kind of things to your friends or someone you love? If not why do it to yourself? Be a good friend to yourself, take some
time to properly listen to what you want and feel, because at the end of the day, no boyfriend or no best friend is gonna take care of you
24/7. You yourself know what you want, so stick by your own side at all times. and be nice

6. Remember the good

This one took quite a hard time to write because it's an unfortunate consequence of the human condition that our failures tend to stand out more prominently than our triumphs. Just to name a few lows from 2015, the top highlights were the fact that I found out I was manipulated for 2 and a half years, cheated and lied and used and then chucked aside, a huge part of me died during that process. my Macbook died, I lost my iphone which was hella depressing, my car died, and all these happened in a month! Great! Hella great. but at the same time I did survived it anyways, if not I won't be here tying on the keyboards of my new iMac, thinking about how a wrong situation could lead you to know what is the right path. Of me finally learning how to be picky with who I invest my time in, because wasted time is worse than wasted money. No doubt that I did had to learn things the hard way, and in many desperate hours I blame myself for not being able to see clearer or understand it faster. All I know is that this year, I want to make things better, for myself, and for the people I care about. As cliche as it sounds, count your blessings.
Someone else is praying for the blessings you take for granted. 

There, I'm finally done with writing the thoughts in my head. Finally (after 20 days) I feel like I can close the chapter of 2k15, and begin a new one. Cheers to a better year folks! Don't wish for it but work to make it happen! :)